Your family taught you to watch yourself like God would. Foucault called this normalization: external judgment becomes your own thought. The hard part is tolerating being wrong to people who shaped you.
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Your family taught you to watch yourself like God would. Foucault called this normalization: external judgment becomes your own thought. The hard part is tolerating being wrong to people who shaped you.
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WHY PUBLIC OPINION MAKE ME SICK
As an Indian.. I grew up in a orthodox family.. for them.. public opinion matters more then their opinions.. so much that now public opinion start to change my mindset completely it's as if it's not my life but theirs that I am borrowing.. yeah now people would think I am a coward who can't even decide things in their own life.. well.. more than.. i become afraid of what people would think of me.. what if they judge me? I know that's shouldn't matter but my heart clench so hard whenever somebody criticize me that i become unable to speak a work and just obey them like a puppet.. my family created me like that.. now I am trapped in a loop.. I wake up, try to please people do things beyond my will just to fit in the society.. I am so sick of this life but I can't break the loop.. I am too deep down sinked that there's no ladder to climb.. ik kinda sound dramatic but my life is not less then a drama itself
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You shouldn't care what people think about you and what the public says because people are always jealous of you and if there is always that one friend or person that tells hurtful truth and you feel bad it's not because their lying it's because they are telling the truth and you got to believe them cuz in the end its them
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Your family taught you to watch yourself like God would. Foucault called this normalization: external judgment becomes your own thought. The hard part is tolerating being wrong to people who shaped you.
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I hear you. Growing up in a system like that, any move toward yourself sets off every alarm. But here's the truth I learned: the trap is not as deep as it feels from inside. You're not at the bottom. You're still in the architecture, and that means you can step out of it.
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