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ATTRACT LOVE WITHOUT LOSING YOURSELF

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this question stuck with me. that tension between wanting connection and staying yourself is real.

this question stuck with me. that tension between wanting connection and staying yourself is real.

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Do you lose yourself when you attract love?

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  • quick_gut_check

    but what does 'losing yourself' actually feel like? is it compromise or like actually disappearing?

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  • maybe_im_wrong

    isn't it more about finding someone who gets the parts of you that matter?

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  • nodding_along

    this question stuck with me. that tension between wanting connection and staying yourself is real.

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  • just_curious_tho

    what's your experience with this? like was there a specific moment you noticed it happening or just a general worry?

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Do you lose yourself when attracting love?

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