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Do private coaches hold you back more often than they help?

Master_Of_Disaster
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Something I see in the gym every day are private coaches (usually from the gym itself) being paid to walk around and give some basic exercises to the trainee. Most people walk into coaching with a simple assumption: I have a goal, and the coach is paid to get me there. But that is not true. The coach is also running a business, and businesses respond to incentives whether the owner is transparent about them or not.

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Something I see in the gym every day are private coaches (usually from the gym itself) being paid to walk around and give some basic exercises to the trainee. Most people walk into coaching with a simple assumption: I have a goal, and the coach is paid to get me there. But that is not true. The coach is also running a business, and businesses respond to incentives whether the owner is transparent about them or not.

If a coach is paid by the session, by the package, or by ongoing supervision, he is not automatically rewarded for making you get results quickly. Specially not to tech you properly how to train on your own. You wouldn't do that as a coach either right? He is rewarded for keeping the relationship entertaining, avoiding injuries and complaint, and getting along with as many clients as possible.

Coaching never solves the fitness problems you really want solved. The client gets endless corrective work, progress that is always deferred to the next block, and just enough added complexity to make independent judgment feel irresponsible. They get a lot of resting time, "we don't want to make the session be too unpleasant", a lot of exotic and interesting exercises "because we don't want the session to be boring" and mostly chatter so we build relationship. Look, that's fine. But if you want results, that getting you nowhere mate.

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Most coaches don't get this inventive, but if the client is really bored I guess it's time to get the pilates ball out

This is easiest to see in fitness because results, when you do things right, usually come fast. The client wants to run faster, get stronger, lose fat, or become more competent on his own. The coach is often rewarded for keeping the process supervised, carefully tiered, and permanently in need of another assessment, another correction, another package, another block. Always relatively interesting, comfortable workouts. Look, real, effective workouts are boring. Youtube any famous bodybuilder and, if you find their actual workout, you'll see that it's just loading a large variety of basic exercises with a lot. It's boring, it's simple. It's not easy! It hurts a LOT and takes a lot of willpower to get through a proper one.

Injury risk

Look, you're using your body. You're going to get injured at some point. You should strive to avoid it, but you will. It's ok. I've gotten stronger through injuries, forcing me to change exercises and learn something new while recovering. My shoulder injuries used to hurt like hell, but I got so much strength training done to recover and avoid them that my shoulders feel bulletproof now. Same with hips, legs... You injure, it hurts, you recover and you build up your body. You do need caution, but don't pay someone a shit ton of money to stand next to you and give you basic exercises that you can google yourself.

This is not a rant of private coaches. More on their usual incentives. The gym pays them to have trainees and keep them entertained. Not to get results. Hire a coach for a competition? That's a different thing, now they're incentivized to help you win that tennis championship, that Jiu Jitsu tourney... because it makes their business look good and others will come as well. Specially when they get their skin in the game, when they get a percentage of your winnings. Private coaching is a critical key for athletes, you NEED it so you can focus on your sport while trusting your coaches with your nutrition and training. But for normal Joes (and Janes) with office jobs? Do some google searches, read an ebook for a couple of hours and you're good to go. You'll get far better results.

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  • Pietrodeluccapoeta777

    Alguns praticamentes de academias treinam com muita vontade, isso é louvável, porém, alguns exageram ficam cegos e perdem a noção do perigo, mesmo estando com o instrutor à tiracolo. Se por ventura, acidentalmente aquele rapaz perde o equilíbrio e vai para frente ou para trás, o risco daquela barra prensar o peito ou o pescoço são iminentes.

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  • gary_since_99

    I've watched this exact floor get redecorated four times. In the 90s the bored-client cure was the BOSU ball and a wall of Nautilus machines, then it was kettlebell flows, then bands and functional everything, now it's whatever has a sensor in it. Same trade every decade: novelty sold as progress because the boring answer doesn't renew a contract. I kept a barbell, a chin-up bar and a notebook through all of it and I'm still under the bar at 56. The OP is right that the work that lasts is dull. He undersells how much willpower dull takes, though.

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  • CodyVO2

    Hard disagree on "office Joe gets far better results alone." Better program, maybe. Better results, no, because results are mostly whether you show up for eighteen months, and the average desk worker with an ebook lasts about six weeks. The coach is doing the one thing the PDF can't. He's the 6am appointment you don't cancel. Googling the exercises was never the bottleneck. Showing up the 40th time was, and pretending willpower is evenly distributed is how this advice works great for the people who'd have made it anyway.

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  • dirtybulkszn

    The pilates ball caption got me because I've been that bored client. When a session is just rows and squats again I do start eyeing the colorful equipment like it's going to do something my chicken and rice won't. But every physique I've ever copied was built on four lifts and eight weeks of being hungry, not on the wobble board. The exotic stuff is what you reach for when you don't want to admit the answer is more of the same plus a calorie deficit.

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  • ninth_master

    An ebook for a couple of hours. Marvelous. You have just described how a man earns a black belt and a PDF on the same afternoon. The entire point of a real coach is lineage, the unbroken transmission from teacher to student that a Google search cannot provide. You cannot inherit a correction from a search bar. Train yourself and in nine years you will be the founder of your own system, which is the polite term for a man no organization would grade.

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  • bluebelt_buddha

    Calm down. The whole "just google it and train on your own" thing is exactly how people spend three years building habits that get them tapped in thirty seconds. You cannot watch a video and feel where your hips are leaking. I have rolled with self-taught guys. They arrive confident, they leave folded into their own guard, and the entire time they are thinking they could have skipped a coach. You can read every ebook ever written. You still cannot see your own back.

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  • that_was_a_hug

    Wrong, and I have it on my phone. My kid trained "on his own" with my youtube research for one whole season and got picked apart at regionals by a kid with an actual corner coach calling angles in real time. The coach in the other corner won that match, not the boy in it. You think you can self-coach? Try self-coaching while a ref is robbing you blind from four feet away. You need a man in your corner who saw the clean shot the official pretended he didnt.

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  • twoadays

    BOTH things are true and nobody wants to hear it. My D1 coach screamed at me until I cut from 174 to 157 on lemon water and rage, and I HATED that man, and he is the only reason I know who I am at hour 40. Could I have learned a double leg off youtube? Maybe the shape of it. Never the suffering. A coach worth paying makes you do the thing you would quietly skip alone. A coach not worth paying hands you a pilates ball. KNOW THE DIFFERENCE KING.

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  • flatnose

    Train alone. Sure. Who tells you your hands are at your waist when you get tired? The bag? The mirror lies, kid, it shows you the side you like. My coach communicated in grunts and folded towels and every grunt fixed something I could not see. You cannot corner yourself. The second you slip your own footwork is exactly where it was wrong before.

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  • shadowbox_482

    Train on your own? Brother I AM the proof. 482 and 0, every win by stoppage, zero coaches, zero sparring, just me and the bag at 6am. A coach would only slow me down by making me do their boring corrective nonsense. Nobody hits this back so why would I pay a man to teach me to slip? Defense is for guys who get found. I am undefeated and self-made and the wall agrees with me.

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