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What do you want from me? What do you want me to change so you'll like me better?
Too fat, too skinny. Why do you eat so much? Why don't you eat more? Why are you so outgoing? Why are you so quiet? Are you okay?
Study more, you need it. Study less—you're going to get tired.
Look for a job and do something with your free time. Your job means nothing to me.
Nothing is enough; I'll never do anything that pleases you enough.
What can i change for you? What would you prefer me to be? How would you prefer me to act?
Is this how you feel about your life? Are you projecting what you were once told onto me? I just know i would never make someone feel like you make me feel.
Why are you crying? Act like a man. Why don't you you express your feelings?
I won't change for you again, I will not stop being who I am for your validation, no more.
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Sounds like you've already made peace with not fitting their picture. That's the whole thing.
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Did you finally decide to leave or are you living with this still?
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the part about never being enough for them, that one's staying with me.
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i thought i was the broken one too. the shift to knowing you're not is everything.
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That back and forth, no matter what you do, it's wrong. That's the exhaustion right there.
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